“Good enough to move on”
There are times in our lives when we just need to keep moving forward. Whatever we are working on needs to be good enough to move on and keep progressing forward. It doesn’t need to be perfect, just needs to be done. We need to ask the question of ourselves about what we can control versus what we can’t. When we can’t do everything, we need to focus on doing everything we can. Thinking fast and sorting through all of the options does not mean that we need to act quickly. It is a skill to think fast and act slowly, act calmly, and act rationally. It is a skill to respond rather than react.
When we are doing everything we can, we must give a perfect effort. Perfect effort does not mean perfection, but rather having integrity about the effort we present to the task. Slowing down is not the same as calming down but by staying calm, it is easier to make decisions. The brain equates safety with slow and predictable responses, rather than spontaneous reactions.
“Good enough to move on” sometimes means that we need to let go of what can hurt us. The law of subtraction says that sometimes subtracting something might make the situation better. This might mean subtracting yourself from a toxic situation but it also might mean cutting your losses on an endeavor that has drained your energy, resources, and time. If you gave a perfect effort, be ok with the outcome, even if it isn’t what you had hoped it would be.
There is no strength without struggle. If your struggles are mental, you must train mentally. If your struggles are physical, you must train physically. It is important to train for more than what is going to be expected so that you can approach the task with confidence. We as humans are more prone to seeing the negatives in the world than the positives. If we train ourselves to see the bright and shiny, however, it becomes easier. On average, there are 3x more positive things in our life than negative but it is 5x easier to find the negatives.
You get to write your own story. You get to decide how you are going to respond to the world. You get to choose when it’s good enough to move on.
